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Start the day inventing a grateful mood

July 15, 2014

Today one can invent a mood. Waking up after sleepless nights of watching cable FIFA games, I tried reinventing a mood after seeing Argentinian Messi who didn’t smile nor cheer after the final match with Germany. As he went up to receive his award as the most valuable player, he showed a sour attitude. Perhaps his bodymind told him there was nothing that could make him celebrate. Poor bodymind message. Having played in many matches and be honored as the MVP is an achievement no one from the 32 teams got. Why is Messi deaf to the cheering millions fans all over the world?
He chose not to be happy enough to smile and thanked the fans.

Being alive and aiming to be the One is laudable but there is more to life than being the greatest. One can open up to the myriad of enchanting challenges that life invents. Waking up each day and being conscious is magical in itself because we are a galaxy of energies. The moment we open our eyes and our brains click to tell us who we are – means our cellular system has correctly tuned in to the moment. It is like powering a million cell sites to connect with a million websites. Every sense, visual,auditory,tactile,olfactory,muscular are on track.

If I were Messi ,Robben, Neymar and the football icons -Pele and Maradonna, I will thank my bodymind and all the people who trained, nurtured and gave me the life force to be part of a global match. I have every reason to cheer and smile no matter what scores other players got. I have a choice and a reason to be happy. I am alive.


Freeing one’s mind

November 8, 2013
Art for the heart

Art for the heart

Filipinos have a habit of quieting one’s consciousness. We do tunganga, a state of mind free from stress. It allows us to be quiet,no distraction,simply being. How? Staring,looking far from window sills, or people on the road squating  the Asian way, serenely letting life flow.

Why do Filipinos do it?  Simply  to be , breathing with the energies within, sensing the kalooban merging with a bigger kalooban. This state of tunganga is similar to mindfulness and Zen , it is knowing there is a bigger mind and entering  it. When we need to be  whole,we enter the inner canopy of our kalooban. But it takes long practice of tunganga to find this canopy and gather strength to remember and recreate.

I do tunganga everyday to gain a sense of wholeness. This may seem somehow unproductive for people who have a routine list of tasks.  Life gives us a wider access to its challenges and mysteries.It is like the movies Gravity,Inception and Time – one enters a state that seems unreal or surreal but when one’s mind expands, we discover a canopy of life inside us that thrives on creativity.

Try it from time to time. Go placidly into your inner self and breathe. Inside you will  discover moments of clarity, moments of flow, moments of grace.

Secrets to a Happy Life

October 24, 2013

“Life is short, the path of art long, a moment ephemeral,experience deceptive judgment difficult.”Hippocrates, born before Christ in 460. Today I will write my art lessons each day as my gift to my daughters Ayen and Minette, and to friends who want to live fully as women.

We grow with 4000 eggs already in our  mother’s womb.When our mothers release us  into the light, these eggs start to prepare the art of kindling the fire of humankind. Every lovemaking is a gift because it opens the channel to our womb making powers. But every menstruation signs off  the end of one egg becoming a human being.  As we bleed each month for many many decades, the number of babies we give birth decrease until  the full stop, the menopausal punctuation in every woman .

So my daughters, your bodies are intimate galaxies and treat them as you value gravity ,water and food.

In my career as a daughter, a sibling, a lover, a wife, a mother I have many planets orbiting around my solar womb. Today let me bring you to a small planet, the Klitoris. This part of our geography is the most sensitive, with 8000 firing lines called synapses and brings women to the nearest solar system. Get to know it because it will bring you where you find your most delightful moments . You will discover  the secret thousands of women knew long before modern science and world religions could tag it as sinful and insignificant in the war to dominate womenkind.

So study this planet and let the heavens blossom.

Mother to daughter tips for life

October 24, 2013

ImageipsEach day

January 10,2014. My first act of gratitude is to wake up hugging Ed.After a week of mourning for my father, Cesar A. Villariba,I feel grateful for a life he shared with us for 90 years. My second act is to pray for Ayen, who has been anxious waiting for her trip to study in Denmark. There have been snags, bumps on her path. I pray for patience with discernment ,the twin wings I wish her to grow. Time is not always a compass to plan one’s journey. Ayen could have planned for a month, a week, a day but the clock doesn’t always tell you what life challenges you to face.

As a mother, I can give her my time,my full attention and a heart that seeks wisdom. This will keep her boarding phase more meaningful.

Imagine a world free of illness

September 6, 2013

Imagine a world free of illness
Today I know more of myself by imagining everyone is well. Yesterday, as I got my acupuncture session started, I told my healer to start with my strong energies so that it could heal my eyes. I believe we are all healers. Those of us who see our bodies afflicted with aches can do simple things daily : breathe deeply (using the yoga breathing through the left and right nasal opening), eat with gratitude savouring every chew, and fill up the day being useful. Helping another person without asking for a reward is healthy. Remembering family, sending a simple message is healthy. Talking to friends face to face or online is healthy. Also mind the Chinese clock of meridians: eat on time, exercise on time, sleep on time.

Buddha temple in Hongkong

Electric circuits in our brains: how to be smart, happy and active

May 24, 2013

Our own bodies ,especially our brains have electric circuits.Every energy inside us has a bio-electric element.I have friends who make televisions and electronic gadgets go haywire when they touch these gadgets.

I downloaded Dr. Andres Lozano demonstration in  TED Talks and studied his work in curing destonia, depression and brain issues by deep brain stimulation. He has a theory of brain electric circuits; that by stimulating these circuits, moods, movement and brain functions can be affirmed, added and altered ( our three As in learning).

Though his theory is somewhat risky in curing deteriorating brain functions, am not sure i want to support all his methods of implanting electrodes in the brain and stimulating the person with a switch. Is it possible to consider non-invasive approaches to healing people with depression ? Can children with destonia recover their movement with music and dance? Can people with  mood disorders be assisted with good diets and loving care?

Many surgeons advise people to undertake operations and it is always a risky procedure. I accept many people take these decisions, eg. Angelina Jolie, but I prefer exploring less risky and doable ways of making our brains work in correcting challenges. There are various meditation disciplines and some monks have been documented to alter their body temperatures in freezing rooms. There are  health protocols such as bodytalk systems, reiki, pranic healing, cranium massage, yoga, etc. that seek to release healing energies .

Imagination, as many scientists prove, is superior to knowledge and with our brains, stimulate  the best circuit in being human. Switch on!

Listening to a person in deep sleep is a gift sense

April 23, 2013

People who think it is so natural to sleep and wake up should give thanks. They should visit family members and friends who can no longer wake up – those who are in stupor or  they cannot regain their conscious self. This is the soul time everyone can learn from – that life has many facets but once our bodies can no longer activate conscious senses, special energies elicit a response from a community to care of us. What is this community I am speaking of? These are the remembering cells of our lives – the various experiences recorded in our bodies which sentient beings, called” intuitive carers” .

When I turned 50, i came to see, listen,smell,feel a special portal of communication. At first I was confused, I checked all my senses what I was receiving. After 10 years of interpreting messages from people whose normal channels of engagement have been cut off, I learned to listen well. I came upon the art of receiving messages with its weight, colours,sounds and associations. I learned by not being myself but being one with the recipient who needs it most. People whose  is in a deeper state; people who are termed retarded ,omatose states can communicate ! These persons have found a higher self and could send signals and messages over a distance to people they sense can receive them.

Today,waking up  conscious makes me grateful .I give thanks to my heart for beating for 64 years and to my brain , for taking care of my whole body while I sleep. I give thanks to the various organ systems for repairing any imbalance for 24 hours .I give thanks to the listening self, this sentience and  luminousity in our mind-heart.

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