Archive for August 2010

Being quiet with a grateful heart

August 23, 2010

Each day, I learn to be quiet and listen to my heart. There are many things that occupy us each day but there is something so rewarding as being quiet and attentive to the  heart and the love inside us. If we know what our heart does each second, we will be mindful of its health, the many things that it brings, the joys and love it sustains.

I focus on my heart love beats, each beat with a rhythm, each flow with its life energy. Why? because the heart is where we have our life force. According to dr. oz, if there is a soul, it is in the heart. My friends, loved ones, mind your heart. Be gentle with yourself, listen and be thankful. A grateful heart is the source of wellness. This wellness  goes beyond the normal sense, it is the good sense.

Why am I talking of the good sense ? because it is my definition of the spiritual sense, a sense bigger than the ordinary sense. when we eat, drink,walk,talk, we need to know what a good sense is. each day we are able to use our sense organs and  we feel alive. but do we know how precious this sensing is? am talking from the perspective of someone who has been witnessing friends and loved ones go into a deep sleep, or a comatose state.

when you are face to face with a loved one or a friend who is in coma, you begin to feel at a loss initially. you dont know how to respond and so you stay quiet. it is not easy . but if you reach out to the heart of the person in coma, you may feel a life throbbing, except you are not sure how to communicate. here is what i know from experience – you can talk and share the moment. you can listen and if you stay focused, you will hear or receive something from the person. a deep sense of love can reach out to anyone in need. each  love sense (from the auditory to the visual) has a spiritual energy. this energy can be fine tuned and you have to stay quiet for long periods if you want to develop it. that is why mystics go on long meditations or retreats. the ancient mystics practiced it for long yogins and sufis. going on long inner journeys gave them the enlightenment they longed for. but this period of silence was powered by a deep love for all – not just a sense of the divine but a sense of love that went beyond the ordinary. a deep love is defined as –  loving others as you love yourself  and the golden rule “do not do unto others what you dont want others to do unto you.”


Family bonding beyond borders

August 7, 2010

I started today checking my heart whose beats I can hear from my right ear. All is well and I turn to Ed, who is sleeping soundly. Ed, Ayen and I watched two movies the night before and slept very late. The first movie was Notting Hill and the second, Madagascar 2. Both were entertaining and we laughed together. This laughing as a family is a healthy practice. Most nights when we are home, Ed, Ayen and I would lounge together in our day bed, open two laptaps, get our facebook accounts and watch a good movie on tv simultaneously. This is the techie bonding time. We watch what is interesting in the web and when we find a good movie on tv , we close our facebook accounts and watch the movie huddled together with Bambi our pet terrier while eating nuts and pastry in bed. Sometimes, we watch a new movie in our laptaps because they look better. Ayen downloads them from torrents and when we use an lcd, our little sala becomes a home theater.

But what is the story I want to share?  Many families, mostly parents,complain that the digital age has made family real time more difficult since everyone has their mobil phones, their laptaps and wifi. When Ed and I learned to use the web in the early 90s, we were amazed at how much we could elearn from it but was more suprised that Ayen used it better when she was 12 years old. Now that we are into our senior years and Ayen is a young adult, we developed a habit of being together, having face to face conversations even when all the digital gadgets are turned on. This face to face, real time for bonding makes our daily life in synch. When we travel overseas, we are in touch with family,relatives, friends and colleagues via  sms and the web. News and stories flow seamlessly and we feel  connected. That is a valuable service the digital age has provided us. Ed and I remember the decade of the 80s when we were not yet web savvy but already had our first Mac, and we used it only for word processing. The 90s opened our eyes and ears to the wonder of the web and then later to wifi systems. Now family bonding beyond borders is real. We can send regular messages to siblings, to our relatives across the sea and even  to friends whom we have not seen for decades. Family and friends are accessible now. We enjoy the weddings, the birthday parties, the reunions and celebrations while being held somewhere in the globe. We  see our twin apos, Edric and Yohan while they learn to walk, talk and grow into boys in Singapore. We are able to send our prayers to those who are ill and our sympathies to those whose loved ones crossed over to the beyond. 

Thank you : techies, engineers,innovators and scientists who made this social bonding  and connectivity possible.We feel it is a good time to be alive and bond with  all.

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